Na Na pinches her pennies

Shh… don't tell anyone I'm poor. They all think I'm living frugal and green just like everyone these days. This is a blog about a senior citizen living a frugal life, on a fixed income, in a low income food desert, and passing along knowledge from lessons learned. Some she learned from her Grandma Mama many years ago and some learned only a few days ago.

An announcement

Over the last month or so I’ve been feeling extremely stressed. I’ve been making mistakes and doing a LOT of apologizing. Some of these feelings are from being in self-isolation for 128 days. However; most of my stress is coming from not feeling in control of my own life. Lately I can’t seem to explain myself very well so please forgive me as I stumble through this post.

Grandma Mama taught me never to become a beggar. In those days poor people wore clothes that were barely held together enough to be called clothes. Grandma Mama would tell me over and over again that there was no shame with wearing a patch but great shame for wearing a hole. Her meaning was that we should rely on our own strength rather than expect others to do for us. There is no shame in being poor but there is great shame in expecting others to fix our holes. I hope you understand the meaning too. It was her way of teaching me to keep my dignity and rely on myself first.

I was reminded of that in a dream a couple nights ago. I want my dignity back. The whole idea of the gofundme is causing me great stress. So does the paypalme account although not quite as much. The money there has a different feel to it.

I will be refunding all the gofundme donations and closing down the campaign just as soon as I figure out how its done. Either later today or early tomorrow I’ll get that done. I do sincerely appreciate all the gifts from everyone but I just can’t handle it anymore. The money is simply not worth the mental stress its causing me. Anyone who has donated money through paypal that wishes me to refund their money please let me know. The money has been transferred to my savings so it will take a couple of days to transfer it back to paypal for your refund.

I see better days ahead.

I will get my teeth someday and keep my dignity too. I have a new idea that doesn’t involve any kind of begging. Just my own work and earning from it. I plan to close down the blog and switch over to youtube concentrating on frugal living diy for seniors.

I’m taking the next two or three weeks to concentrate on my plan and to relieve some of this stress. Call it my staycation. Before I close down this blog completely I’ll come back to give an update. No later than July 31. See you in three weeks!

P.S. The mystery of the strange email has been solved. It was not a scammer at all. My bad. It was just someone as cautious as me about giving money to strangers.

31 comments on “An announcement

  1. Emerald Buller
    July 22, 2020

    I will miss your blog too Anita. I always though of your tip jar as a way to contribute to a service I enjoy. I have often wished other bloggers would add one too, as I’d rather contribute straight to the product I like than buy something so the blogger can get a few cents from an affiliate program. I hope you find a way forward that sits well with your heart. As for me, I will continue to contribute to your tip jar as long as I read your blog. I’m fairly new here, so there are many back posts to enjoy. Thank you for all you have given us, good luck on YouTube. xx

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  2. melissarohlfs
    July 20, 2020

    I enjoy your blog and will look for you on YouTube.

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  3. Leslie Saunders
    July 19, 2020

    Anita,
    I admire and respect you so much. Thank you for being there for all of us.
    Looking forward to your YouTube Chanel. Stay safe and keep well.

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    • Anita
      July 19, 2020

      Hi Leslie, thank you.

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  4. nowamfoundatlast
    July 19, 2020

    seems like a lot of people including me feel your pain. A.A. Milne
    “You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” a.a. milne

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  5. Jasna (from Patagonia, now living in Ireland)
    July 16, 2020

    I’m so so sorry to hear you are considering closing this blog but I respect your decision. Thank you so much for being such an inspiration. I’ll be following you on Youtube. Hugs,
    Jasna

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  6. Amy
    July 10, 2020

    Yes I will miss your blog as well, but will look for your YouTube channel. I got a new phone and lost all my passwords on my old phone so will need to build my watch list ( or whatever they are called) back up. I am 68 and working full time and ready to retire because I just can’t physically do it anymore. All your tips and suggestions come in handy Anita so I will be there! Hopefully YouTube can provide you with some monetary earnings! I’ve heard they do. I will share your channel as much as I can!

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  7. Di
    July 10, 2020

    I won’t argue with Grandma Mama’s wisdom, but I will offer my way of looking at receiving assistance. Every one of us has had help at one time or another. No baby would survive if it didn’t get food and shelter or grow to adulthood without help. You may not be able to pay back those who helped you, but you can certainly pay it forward. There is a difference between getting help when circumstances are not in your favor and quite another to ask for things when you’re perfectly capable of providing for yourself and are just unwilling. In particular, I think we all owe a debt to our previous generations because we are enjoying the world they built. Whatever they did, whether they worked or stayed home to raise their children, they’ve contributed to the life we have so helping our seniors is more of repaying the debt we owe to them anyway.
    Secondly, someone said to me once that to give a person something is a blessing for the giver and if they offer to give you something you need you shouldn’t deny them that blessing. As long as it’s given and received with a kind heart and no bad motives, it gives the receiver a boost and the giver a blessing.
    I guess I’m saying I think there’s no shame in accepting help when there’s a valid need. It improves that person’s life so they can go on to help others one day and it lets the giver feel good by paying forward the help they’ve had and get a blessing to boot.
    Hope that made sense. I do see how the go fund me could give more stress than it’s worth and you have to do what feels right to you. I will miss the blog, and want to thank you for what I’ve learned from you. See you on youtube.

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    • Anita
      July 19, 2020

      It made perfect sense Di. I can hear my Grandma Mama’s words coming from you. Its almost exactly something she would have said to me. I was always to accept gifts graciously but never to beg. I was to do the best I could with what I had. I always pay it forward by making things with my own hands to give others. The gofundme required my bank information to accept the money. I didn’t feel comfortable giving that. Also, I saw legal issues about the donations that I didn’t want to deal with. Stay safe!

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  8. catherine young
    July 10, 2020

    I’ll miss your blog. ☹️

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  9. Silver
    July 8, 2020

    I’m sorry it’s been so stressful for you. I hope you have a good rest but hope you’ll maintain the blog as I enjoy reading your posts.

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  10. Terri
    July 8, 2020

    I will miss your blog! I don’t watch YouTube unless I need something specific from it, so I probably won’t see you there, but I wish you the best of luck! I don’t want my donation back- I didn’t give it out of pity but in appreciation for your work on the blog. Getting help when you really need it isn’t shameful. It’s also a very nice thing to let others help and feel the joy that comes from giving.

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  11. eckster
    July 8, 2020

    I’ll miss your blog. I prefer the written word over video, and your words were always very sincere and educational. Thanks for blogging as long as you did. Take care.

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  12. craftytadpole
    July 8, 2020

    You will be missed. 😦

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  13. Mary
    July 7, 2020

    I’m sorry to hear that you are shutting down your blog. I do hope you will reconsider. I don’t take the time to watch videos but will read as it doesn’t seem to take as long.

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  14. Jane
    July 7, 2020

    I love your blog! can you please reconsider and keep it?

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  15. oldfashionmama
    July 7, 2020

    I will miss your blog posts.

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    • Anita
      July 7, 2020

      Thanks, but its time. You watch youtube? I’ll bet there.

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      • oldfashionmama
        July 7, 2020

        I do in the evenings sometimes if I am crocheting or cleaning up the kitchen for the night.

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  16. Zoanne Osborn
    July 7, 2020

    We can use a channel like that. There are a few but not with your unique situation and circumstance.

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    • Anita
      July 7, 2020

      I’m hoping to make my channel much more than just a talking head. I want it to go back to being an instruction channel about how seniors can survive in poverty. Maybe a few younger folks will watch for fun.

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  17. Jackie
    July 7, 2020

    I will miss your blog. Thank you.

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    • Anita
      July 7, 2020

      Do you watch youtube? I’ll be there. You’re welcome.

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  18. Texasilver
    July 7, 2020

    I don’t see the contributions as a result of your “begging”. You invest time & $ into your blog. Your readers enjoy the blog & contribute to offset your costs. I was raised with limited resources. My father died when I was 7 & my mother was left to raise 4 children age 7 & under. I am in a better place financially now. I believe it is a privilege & duty to help others with less. Many times I have read on your blog that your readers ask what can they do to help you. I think it was a reader’s idea to set up the goFundme page. Please reconsider keeping what you have been given. I can only speak for myself but I suspect others may feel likewise.

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    • Anita
      July 19, 2020

      Thank you Laurel, yes it was a reader who suggested the gofundme. After I opened it I saw legal issues with keeping the gofundme donations AND I didn’t feel right keeping it. The campaign also required me to promote my cause on facebook and other social media. I don’t do facebook or twitter, or any of those things. I only blog or make videos and those alone consume quite a lot of time. My time is better spent doing what I must do to survive in these crazy times. I feel much better about someone donating through paypal or personal check which I can direct deposit into my teeth savings account. Its far less troublesome too because I don’t have to give my personal bank information to anyone. Gofundme requires my bank information to receive the funds. I didn’t feel comfortable giving it. I’ve already set the refunds. IF anyone still would want to donate the tip jar paypal link works and personal checks can be mailed.

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  19. I really appreciate your sentiments, Anita. Would you please reconsider shutting down your blog, though? I think it’s an awesome resource. I would really miss it.

    Also…is there any way you could simply view this money as a gift from people who care?

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    • Anita
      July 7, 2020

      Yes, I thought of them as gifts but there is too much distrust of people asking for money these days. There comes a time in our lives when change is inevitable. I’m thankful I still healthy enough to live in my house instead of a nursing home.

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  20. Kathi Waite
    July 7, 2020

    love you friend. You were NOT begging. I do understand and appreciate your feelings. I will be so sad when/if you close down this blog. It seems to be the only way we keep in touch. Yet again, I understand your reasoning, etc. WE will have to find another way to keep in touch. I”m not going to let go of my friend of over twenty years this easily. Praying.

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    • Anita
      July 11, 2020

      Kathi, I sent you an email. We’ve been friends for far too many years to stop now. 🙂

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      • Kathi Waite
        July 11, 2020

        all good friend. We’ll allways figure it out.

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  21. rburgessfl
    July 7, 2020

    I love your blog. I wish you could find a way to monetize it. Or maybe write an ebook on frugality and sell it on Amazon. I’d buy it. Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way! 😘

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